The modern world and the influences of technology have shifted expectations and norms when it comes to dating. And while this has improved the dating lives of many it seems that heterosexual, well-educated women are one of the losers when it comes to finding love today.
For many women who are educated to degree level and beyond finding a partner with similar educational credentials is important. They are looking for a man who has shared in similar experiences and has a similar knowledge base. It’s a no-brainer that they would tick this box when searching for Mr Right – even though the pool of candidates may look less than inspiring.
The problem is that the ratio of educated men to women in life (and on dating sites) just don’t stack up. This means that for many women there just aren’t enough educated men to go around.
The problem at a pure maths level is that more women are highly educated than ever before. The numbers across most countries in the western world tell the same story. In the US, for example, you have 4 women attending college for every 3 men. This 33% uplift causes a significant problem when it comes to the dating market. It follows that there are going to be well-educated women who can’t find a partner with similar qualifications because they simply don’t exist.
Anecdotally, it seems men value educational levels less highly than women when it comes to finding a mate. This may be due to traditional ideas about gender roles or simply that education doesn’t register as high on their radar. Bluntly, fewer men say that education level matters when it comes to meeting their perfect match. This mismatch of ideals means highly-educated men may date women with less academic experience, reducing the pool of eligible well-educated men even further.
When we meet someone in real life, education is rarely one of the first things to come up. In fact, it’s usually only unearthed after a connection has been formed (or not) and at that stage has little impact. The tick box nature of online dating has inflated the importance of education as a metric for choosing a partner. This is true of many aspects of online dating and a too stringent checklist of requirements can make it much more difficult to find someone to build a relationship with.
The lesson here? Perhaps we all need to pay less attention to education levels and look a little more closely at the person underneath. By opening ourselves up to the potential of a partner who does not fit our usual ‘type’ we might just be pleasantly surprised.
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