If you have recently split from your partner, divorced or lost a loved one and have taken the time to reacquaint yourself with the single you, you may have reached the point where you are ready to put yourself out there and find love once more.
Looking for love at any age has its trials and tribulations, but mature dating comes with its own unique struggles. What are the chances of Mr or Miss Right bumping into you in the middle of the street? Especially when considering all of the factors involved; are they in your age group? Are they actually single? Are they even looking for a relationship? Do you have similar interests and beliefs?
There’s so many little details that determine your compatibility, not to mention, even if by some miraculous miracle you are made for each other and you do fall into each other’s arms at that moment; will either have you do anything about it? Or will you smile awkwardly, apologise and continue on your individual paths always wondering ‘what if…’?
There are a number of things you can do to increase your chances of meeting that mature someone the ‘organic’ way starting by changing your routine. This could be as simple as going to a different coffee shop, walking a different route with your dog or joining a club or class. You never know who you could spontaneously meet if you wander outside of your comfort zone.
Smile openly and be ready to converse with others, even if it’s a simple “hello”. The more approachable you are, the more likely that special someone is to notice you and make a move. Say “yes” to new experiences and opportunities. Go to that party you’ve been invited to, volunteer for that upcoming event, have a drink with that colleague who keeps asking. Manifest the possibilities!
The more you get out and about, the happier and more fulfilled your life will become. You’ll find fun in everyday life and the pressure of finding someone will subside as you become more and more satisfied with simply being you. This benefits you two-fold as you’re not only content in yourself, you become increasingly attractive to the opposite sex; you ooze independence and clearly do not need someone else to make you happy.
Online dating is an excellent way to meet mature singles. The internet allows you to meet thousands of single people in your surrounding area that you may never normally meet in real-life. It’s fast becoming the number one way for bringing people together with success stories flooding the net and bringing hope to single people world-wide. However, there are some frustrations surrounding the online dating process which should be highlighted before your expectations are shattered.
Mature singles are more likely to have baggage in the form of an ex, children, grandchildren and so forth which can cause tension and stress in a new relationship. Online dating may cause upset within the family if not handled and addressed appropriately.
Yes, online dating can be tricky, especially when it comes to the massive amount of competition that we are up against. More and more people are becoming single again at a mature age and the market is ever-growing. It can be frustrating putting yourself out there only to be ignored or rejected. You may build a relationship with an online mature single only to have them disappear into cyberspace one day for no reason. You could have a string of unsuccessful dates and feel like throwing in the towel.
You are not alone.
The secret to success is simple; remain positive, love yourself, keep your expectations realistic and laugh it off. Dating is supposed to be fun so take each experience as it is, smile, be true to yourself and stay focused on what’s important to you. Whether you meet your mature single in the park, online or at the supermarket, remember to be proud of who you are and take it slowly.