So you’ve been flirting for a while and you’ve got a pretty good idea that your feelings might be reciprocated, but there’s still that nagging feeling. What if they don’t want to go on a date with you? What if they just don’t respond? What if I’ve misread the conversation?
No matter how well things have gone up to this point, for somebody getting back into mature dating, the moment we put those words out there can be absolutely terrifying. So, what can you do? Well, you can follow these 12 tips.
- Why are you asking them out, is it for the right reasons and what do you expect as a result of them saying yes or no?
- Be prepared that the person you ask may say no and in which case do not take the rejection personally.
- When asking someone out choose your moment carefully and practise what you might say in advance so that you don’t appear tongue-tied.
- If the person you ask says yes, ensure you already have thought of a place, date and time for the date so that you display signs of thoughtfulness.
- Be prepared for the person asking why you want to date them so that you are able to flatter and create a sense of trust immediately. People can be wary and they may want to know some reason behind your request.
- Make sure that your request for a date does not pressurize the person in any way. If they want to think about it, let them. But don’t chase.
- Make sure that when you ask someone on a date you smile and keep things fun and happy. Being confident and smiley will elicit a far more positive response.
- Always have an alternative date and time or location in mind should the person be unsure of their diary. Giving a person a choice is often a marketing masterstroke.
- If the person says no, don’t chase for a reason, simply move on. They may think about things and get back to you with a yes response later.
- If you ask someone on a date, make sure that you actually intend to go through with it. Standing people up is not allowed.
- If you are being asked out don’t play games. If you need time to consider the offer then say so. If you want to say no, say no. But do not keep someone hanging on for no reason. You wouldn’t like the situation if it was reversed.
- Try to avoid Dutch-courage such as using alcohol to boost your courage levels as this will often backfire.