Seeing your date in person can often be make-or-break as it only takes a few minutes to get or make that all important first impression. If you’re captivated by their profile and personality, there is a good chance there’ll be some attraction when you start dating.
We all start relationships with a first date and if we get it right then a wonderful future may await you. Good places for a first date outside of bars and restaurants are those that partly attracted you to a date in the first place. If the other person is as mad on horse racing as you are then a picnic and visit to your local track makes perfect sense. Remember though that first dates are often best in daytime and in social surroundings. Think outside the box and you could find yourself off to a great start.
Your dating profile is all important
Take your time with your over 40 dating profile. Choose a photo that shows you in your best light and avoid passport photos that usually look grim. You may have a wonderful photo of you drunk at a party with your friends but it’s unlikely to get you many admirers online. Ideally your profile should have a range of photos which show the different sides of your character.
Avoid clichés in your profile such as ‘go with the flow’ or ‘happy go lucky’. These might be true but many other folk say the same thing. Try using things that individualize you such as a music gig you have just been to or a novel you have just finished. If eating out is your thing, then mention your favourite food. If you are lucky enough to have an great job, then describe it. You get the idea.
All of us are multi-dimensional and although it would be great to find the only other Donald Trump, fan club member in Sunderland who is over 6ft tall and whose favourite food is roast rat, it is unlikely. The best way to search is to firstly focus in on the things that are non-negotiable such as whether a person smokes or not and whether they are within a reasonable radius. After that, start adding all your likes and dislikes one at a time and slowly you will get to your perfect shortlist of potential people to chat to.
Don’t wait. Make a move
If someone you think looks good has read your profile and hasn’t sent you a message, please don’t give up hope! It’s still more common for the male members to be proactive than women with their online dating, Men often love the confidence that comes with you making the first move.
The same goes for the men. If you’ve winked at a lady and she hasn’t reciprocated then don’t fret, write to her. Keep your messages short and friendly but if they don’t write back then don’t stress about it. Online dating can be a numbers game.
Most online daters will meet at least one person they’re not that attracted to during the process. It’s totally normal and mirrors any other form of dating. Keep at it and when you do meet the perfect person you’ll know that it was worth the wait!
Use common sense
It is our main priority to make sure that you have a safe and successful experience on this website. We strongly recommend that you build up relationships over time and do not give out your personal telephone number or address to matches that interest you straight away.
It is unlikely that you would give your life story and all your details to somebody you had met for thirty minutes in the local pub and did not really know, so do not do it online either.
Online dating is different to traditional dating because you can be highly selective and take your time. Remember that you are fully in control and there is no rush at all to move things forward.
Use common sense just as you would in traditional dating. We believe that the best venue for a first date is always somewhere public. Also, that a first date during the daytime hours is sensible.
The world is full of happy couples. Many, met for the first time on this website. Enjoy the experience and happy dating!